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		<title>Understanding Anxiety</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Our practice specialises in treating anxiety and we find this site very helpful. We are happy to supply this reference as a resource. www.understandinganxiety.com.au]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3731/understanding-anxiety/</link>
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		<title>Six month mark for men in relationships</title>
		<description><![CDATA[At six months, you have reached a symbolic landmark in your relationship. It could be said to be the first major milestone you have encountered as a couple. While it may not be your comfort zone, the six month mark is an appropriate time to reflect on how to proceed. Positive or negative, the fundamental [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3634/six-month-mark-for-men-in-relationships/</link>
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		<title>Renee writes for Body &amp; Soul</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Renee suggests 7 ways to ease kids into daycare in an article in the body and soul magazine. Click here to read the article in Body + Soul]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3690/renee-writes-for-body-soul-on-seven-ways-to-ease-kids-into-daycare/</link>
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		<title>A good divorce?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I have always struggled with the term “good divorce” which is a term popularised in the 1990s to describe a break-up in which the parents are co-operative, the children remain close to both, and emerge, apparently, unscathed. Working with broken families, I have never seen anyone emerge intact. So when a new study showed that [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3336/a-good-divorce/</link>
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		<title>Self-Esteem and Dating</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Dating is difficult and can wreak havoc with your self-esteem. Rejection or uncertainty can make you feel vulnerable and insecure. Here are some ways to save your self-esteem while dating: 1.    Avoid high expectations. If you meet someone and develop really high expectations quickly, you probably won’t find what you’re looking for. 2.    Don’t lie [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3565/self-esteem-and-dating/</link>
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		<title>Seven year itch fallacy</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The seven year itch theory does not hold up any more. Research today confirms that relationships hit a low after three years. Here are some statistics of the decline experienced by couples after three years in a relationship: First three years/ After three years Row for 1.2 hours per week/Row for 2.7 hours per week [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3627/seven-year-itch-fallacy/</link>
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		<title>Abnormal child sex behaviour</title>
		<description><![CDATA[It is important that parents can talk frankly about sex. Often parents are worried about the sexual activity of their kids and are not sure if it is appropriate or not. It’s a minefield that every parent must navigate carefully. However, they do not know what normal sexual behaviour among their children is. A new [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3342/abnormal-child-sex-behaviour/</link>
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		<title>Self-Esteem Quotes</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I have selected some great self-esteem quotes.  I believe that they are useful in reminding ourselves how valuable our own opinions of ourselves are, sometimes in spite of what we hear from others. When you feel down or question yourself, say a quote that resonates with you, aloud. Watch how your mood changes and your [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3560/self-esteem-quotes/</link>
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		<title>How should I tell my friend&#8217;s mom about my anxiety?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I have horrible anxiety. When adults are angry at me and they text me or call me about it I have anxiety attacks. My friend&#8217;s mom is angry at me and she has tried to call me and text me multiple times but I can&#8217;t answer because it triggers my anxiety. How do I let [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/1292/how-should-i-tell-my-friends-mom-about-my-anxiety/</link>
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		<title>Prevent anger from escalating depression</title>
		<description><![CDATA[One way of managing anger is to look within. It&#8217;s a matter of becoming psychological-minded and engaging in introspection. Tune into the inner dialogue that you customarily have with yourself. •    Uproot mistaken beliefs that underlie your response. Very often anger is the result of beliefs that lead you to place unreasonable demands on circumstances, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3463/prevent-anger-from-escalating-depression/</link>
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		<title>Is there life after divorce?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Divorce marks the end of a marriage. It is a sad time. Going through the legalities and financials are difficult. However, they can also be seen as concrete ways that prove that the relationship is over. MOURN THE LOSS It is important to mourn the loss of the relationship and lay it to rest. Many [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3624/is-there-life-after-divorce/</link>
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		<title>Controlled crying is a blubbering mess</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I presented the latest research on controlled crying which, on the whole, was positive. However, many other experts do not agree. 1.    A new guide from parenting service Safe Sleep Space, opposes controlled crying and says that taking a gentle, positive approach is more effective than laying down the law. 2.    SA Health [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3345/controlled-crying-is-a-blubbering-mess/</link>
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		<title>Self- Esteem Tests</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Low self-esteem is often misunderstood, and even misdiagnosed, by many counsellors as being of secondary concern. The truth is that low self-esteem (LSE) is not merely a symptom. It is frequently the root cause of problems like depression, anxiety, relationship breakdowns, parenting difficulties and anger. That may be a reason therapy is not working for [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3556/self-esteem-tests/</link>
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		<title>How do you raise your self-esteem and genuinely feel good about yourself?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Is it possible for someone who has a lot of emotional baggage to go from having a lifetime of low self-esteem to feeling great about oneself (at least most of the time if not all)? Can this really happen and how? &#160;]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/1302/how-do-you-raise-your-self-esteem-and-genuinely-feel-good-about-yourself/</link>
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		<title>Modern couples spend less time together</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A survey of 2,000 adults in steady relationships suggests that couples are spending less and less time together. The average couple spends just 13.9 hours a week in each other&#8217;s company. It appears that romance begins to lose its sparkle around the three-year mark at which time couples are apart for even longer. Couples increasingly [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3619/modern-couples-spend-less-time-together/</link>
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		<title>Controlled crying still a bone of contention</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Are you in favour of controlled crying? Well, it seems that there is some evidence that it could be helpful and not damaging to babies. An unpublished study from Flinders University found controlled crying did not increase the stress levels of babies, or lead to any attachment disorders, a year after the controlled sleeping phase. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3348/controlled-crying-still-a-bone-of-contention/</link>
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		<title>3 Steps to Building Self-Esteem</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Eleanor Roosevelt famously said, &#8220;No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.&#8221; In other words, you can accept or reject another person’s evaluation of you. Let’s say you are 6 ft 6 inches tall and somebody called you “Shorty”, you would not take it seriously. You would think that they are being sarcastic, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3552/3-steps-to-building-self-esteem/</link>
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		<title>Passive Conflict Styles</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Many people do not enjoy conflict. And many people choose passive ways of dealing with conflict. Here are 4 common passive conflict styles: The Avoider: Avoiders refuse to fight. When a conflict arises, they will leave, fall asleep, and pretend to be busy at work, or keep from facing the problem in some other way. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3460/passive-conflict-styles/</link>
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		<title>80 20 rule in relationships</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Did you know that the 80 20 rule can be applied to issues in a relationship? The easiest way to interpret it with respect to relationships is this: 80% of all frustrations in a relationship are caused by just 20% of the problems. Irritations like clothes lying around the room, taking ages to get dressed, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3616/80-20-rule-in-relationships-3/</link>
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		<title>Epidemic of child pornography</title>
		<description><![CDATA[How do parents keep their children safe when child pornography is rife? Australian police are warning of an epidemic in child pornography. They say that paedophiles are increasingly recording themselves abusing children and sharing these images with child sex networks. Australian Federal Police (AFP) said officers used to find hundreds of photographs on a suspect&#8217;s [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3355/epidemic-of-child-pornography/</link>
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		<title>Development of Self-Esteem</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Self-esteem starts to develop in early childhood, around age two. It is not measurable before the age of five or six because up until this time two functions of self-esteem, competence and worthiness, operate independently of each other. In other words, when an infant acquires the skill of clapping, he is delighted with himself. However, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3547/development-of-self-esteem/</link>
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		<title>Keep anger from feeding your depression</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here are ways to keep anger from feeding your depression. •    First, identify your anger and acknowledge it. Anger is one of those emotions whose expression is sometimes subject to taboos so that people can grow up unable to recognize it; they feel its physical discomfort but can&#8217;t label it. If you are one of [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3456/keep-anger-from-feeding-your-depression/</link>
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		<title>Fathers juggling work-life time bomb</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Fathers today want to be more involved in raising and caring for their children but pressures from work are pulling them in the other direction. A new book, Time Bomb: Work, rest and play in Australia today, says half of fathers with young children work more than 45 hours a week, regarded as &#8221;long hours&#8221;, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3359/3359/</link>
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		<title>Self-Esteem Activities</title>
		<description><![CDATA[People with high self-esteem act and think in ways that contribute to their self-esteem! The way they interact with the world improves their chances of success and helps them keep on developing positive self-esteem. 1.    Learn to be calm and relaxed People with high self-esteem are also generally more optimistic and relaxed than people who [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3542/3542/</link>
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		<title>Renee to talk on &#8216;Smacking&#8217; on ABC Local Radio on Monday 9th April at 1pm</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Tune in to ABC Local Radio on Monday, April 9th at 1pm for the ‘Easter Afternoon with Aaron Kearney’ program. Renee will be part of a panel discussion on smacking. Check your local ABC radio station for your bandwidth.  For Sydney listeners, it&#8217;s 702 on the AM band]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3599/3599/</link>
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		<title>Fair Fighting Rules</title>
		<description><![CDATA[It is probably impossible for two people, who live work or interact with one another, not to have conflict sooner or later. Conflict is not necessarily bad and can lead to good outcomes if conducted fairly. Here are some fair fighting rules: Stay in the present. Don&#8217;t dredge up things from the past or predict [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3453/fair-fighting-rules/</link>
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		<title>French children don’t throw food</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A new book has criticised hands-on parenting techniques. Pamela Druckerman, author of French Children Don’t Throw Food, laments her baby girl&#8217;s inability to sit up at a dinner table as opposed to the obedient French children who sit upright and silent as they delicately eat their fish and chips. Druckerman’s book comes hot on the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3362/3362/</link>
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		<title>Self-Esteem and Clothing</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here is a blog post I recently read, I thought it has value. “Whether it&#8217;s right or wrong, in the fledgling stages of building up a poor self image, &#8220;putting your best foot forward&#8221; is a step in the right direction and should be taken seriously if you are serious about changing your daily happiness [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3538/self-esteem-and-clothing-2/</link>
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		<title>Do You Have an Anger Problem?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The following are questions designed to help identify potential problems you may have with anger and/or control. This is not a researched scale, but it can point to serious signs of danger in intimate relationships. •    Do friends and family feel free to share their thoughts and feelings with you? •    If a stranger knew [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3449/do-you-have-an-anger-problem/</link>
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		<title>Helicopter parents</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Barely a day goes by in the media without a piece scoffing at ‘‘helicopter parents’’, child kings and attachment parenting. The argument goes that our desire to be good parents has led to a generation of narcissistic, obese, rude and badly behaved children. Studies evaluating parenting styles and their results do not confirm this argument. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3365/3365/</link>
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		<title>Anger-Down Talk</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Both research and experience show that when people pay attention to and make positive changes in their self talk, their anger is reduced and they gain control of themselves. When you feel yourself starting to get angry, take time out to get a grip on yourself mentally by the use of anger-down talk. Listed below [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3446/anger-down-talk/</link>
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		<title>Anxiety during pregnancy</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Anxiety during pregnancy So much is spoken about depression both during pregnancy (antenatal) and after giving birth (postnatal). Clinicians and researchers have focused on these topics for a number of decades to the benefit of women suffering depression. Little has been known about the pattern of anxiety across this period. However, a recent study in [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3319/anxiety-during-pregnancy/</link>
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		<title>Renee Featured in emPOWER Magazine</title>
		<description><![CDATA[As part of her involvement with Voxy Lady, Renee has been featured in the Autumn 2012 issue of emPOWER Magazine. http://www.empoweronline.com.au]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3489/renee-featured-in-empower-magazine-3/</link>
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		<title>Lean babies and finger foods</title>
		<description><![CDATA[If you want your children to grow up lean, you might want to encourage them to eat with their fingers. Infants given finger foods during weaning gain less weight than those who are spoon-fed purées by parents, a study shows. Psychologist Dr Ellen Townsend, who led the study, said babies who take control at mealtimes [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3368/3368/</link>
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		<title>Anxiety and depression often co-exist</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Anxiety and depression often co-exist Many individuals suffer from anxiety and depression at the same time. Sometimes, one of these conditions goes untreated. The result is that the individual receives treatment but because it is not complete, the person remains feeling unwell. For example, it is not uncommon for people with social anxiety to also [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3318/anxiety-and-depression-often-co-exist/</link>
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		<title>Soul in the City &#8211; March 21, 2012</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Soul in the City &#8211; Renee&#8217;s Topic: &#8216;How Relationship Problems Affect Work Performance&#8216; Please click on this link to see the full flyer and invitation: Soul in the City March 2012.gif &#160;]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3512/soul-in-the-city-march-21-2012/</link>
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		<title>Anger during pregnancy</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Failure to recognize and understand anger can lead to a variety of problems for pregnant women and their unborn babies. According to APA (American Psychologists Association) documentation, anger is accompanied by physiological and biological changes: when we get angry, our heart rates and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of our energy hormones [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3441/anger-during-pregnancy/</link>
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		<title>Renee&#8217;s New Angle on Stress in the Workplace</title>
		<description><![CDATA[In this month&#8217;s Voxy Lady Magazine ( online magazine March 2012 issue ), Renee writes about Stress in the Workplace.]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3477/renees-new-angle-on-stress-in-the-workplace/</link>
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		<title>Parenting eighteen year old males</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Every age brings it own challenges when you are a parent. We would like to think that by late adolescence, our children are out of the woods. Not so. It has been found that fresh out of school,18-year-old males are more likely to commit a crime than people of any other age or gender. Police [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3371/3371/</link>
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		<title>Anti-anxiety medication information</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Anti-anxiety medication information Medication can relieve some of the symptoms of anxiety. However, you need to be aware of the following: * Medication should be prescribed and monitored by a competent health professional. * Medication does not cure the underlying problem causing anxiety. * Medication is rarely a long-term solution. * Anxiety medications come with [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://reneemill.com/3317/anti-anxiety-medication-information/</link>
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