Aggressive ways of expressing feelings

Many people are unable to express their anger in a constructive manner. Instead they become aggressive in interesting ways: The Sniper: Rather than come out and express their feelings about the object of their dissatisfaction, snipers will attack their friend’s/spouse’s behavior by making sarcastic comments. If their friends/spouses respond in a hurt fashion, snipers might [...]

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Anger escalates anger

An interesting thing happens when we yell at somebody. They yell back. Have you ever thought about it? Your unspoken thought or wish was that they would back down, shut up or give you what you wanted.  Instead, what happens is usually the opposite. The person you are yelling at responds negatively. Children tend to become defiant, sulk or [...]

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Anger and anxiety

Over the years, I have taught hundreds of people how to manage their emotions which are affecting their performance negatively. What I have observed, is that frequently anger and anxiety are connected.  Let me illustrate my point with David’s story (not his real name). David was angry at work every day. Literally all day, he [...]

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Do not let anger control you

Anger is a form of control. When we are young, we discover that if we yell and scream, we will get what we want. Look at young kids. A two year old having a tantrum in a shopping mall will get whatever their hearts desire. Mum will do anything for peace. If we continually give [...]

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