One of the major causes of stress today is money. Not only for “battlers”, but for people on all levels of society.
Of course, financial hardship is tough. However, I have found that people from all walks of life obsess about their finances, no matter their financial bracket.
There are those who earn a liveable salary. All their needs are met but still they are not satisfied. These individuals may work excessively, attend seminars on ‘how to get rich quick’ and dream of winning the Read more [...]
Since the 1970's, self-esteem has been a buzz word. It began with the "I" generation", a generation of people who were striving for happiness and self-actualisation.
All kinds of self-help movements evolved. Different forms of psycho-therapy were developed. The focus was mainly on "how do I feel?" and if I do not feel comfortable then I need to escape the discomfort.
But how could one build the self, feel good and remove discomfort? The major method that emerged was to be positive over Read more [...]
Many parents have told me that it is impossible to work together. They say that their differences are so huge that they will never agree.
Differences may be the result of many factors including gender differences, age differences, exposure to different family backgrounds, individual personalities and opinions about life.
Whatever the reasons, it IS possible for parents with multiple differences to successfully cooperate when bringing up their children.
8 tips for working in harmony
1. Drop Read more [...]
Anxiety and stress interfere with many aspects of thinking, planning and remembering.
In fact, Daniel Goleman the doyenne of EQ theory says:
"Stress makes you stupid!"
Usually, when we are having cognitive difficulties, we think of intellectual deterioration. When a person forgets a name, or address, they will say "I am having a senior moment". We associate forgetting with ageing and cognitive decline. Rarely, does the person say "I forgot a name I should know - I must be feeling anxious."
This Read more [...]
My experience is that many people today love to talk about themselves but are inept at listening.
One personal example that springs to mind is when my father passed away. You would think that others would make space for my experience. Instead it went like this:
"I am so sorry to hear that your father passed away. I know how devastating that is. Mine passed away 4 years ago. Do you know that I have never got over it? Every day I cry about it..." etc etc etc.
I have found that often, when Read more [...]